kanya daan ek kupratha

 Hindu paramparao me ladki ke kanyadan ki pratha sadiyo se chali aa rahi hai, kanyadan ke bina na to ladki ka vivah sambhav hai na ladke ka, isliye Hindu sanskrati me iska bada mahatv hai, iske saath hi kanyadan ko hinduo ke samast daano me shresht sthaan prapt hai, kahte hai jinki apni kanya nahi hoti wo doosro ki kanya ka daan kar punya paate hai, isliye ise samast daano me. Shresht sthaan prapt hai,

Par sadiyo se chali aa rahi is parampara ke kaaran naari ki samaaj ke samne kya sthiti hui hai shayad hi isse pahle kisi ne vichaar kiya ho, khud stree ne bhi sadiyo purani parampara ke karan ho rahe uske astitwa ke hanan ke vishya me vichaar kiya ho,

Sabse pahle hame ye jaanna chahiye daan un vastuo ka hota hai Jo nirjiv hai yaha "vastu" shabd par vishesh dhyaan de, iske atirikt gaaye aadi pashuo ka bhi daan kiya jaata hai kyoki ki manav unhe apni sampatti samjhta hai haalaki wo nirjiv nahi hai kintu daan unka kiya jata hai taki jiske Ghar wo jaaye usse labhanvit kare jaise hame kiya,

Kintu stree jiska kanya ke roop me daan kiya jaata hai use kya samjha jaaye ek vastu nirjiv jiska daan kiya jaata hai ya ek pashu, sawal ye uthtaa hai naari ki samaaj ke samne kya ahmiyat hai, sadiyo pahle log stree ko mahaj apni sampatti samjhte the, chooki wo nirjiv nahi thi isliye pashuo par apne malikana hak ke madhyanazar uska wo daan karte the naari ko bhi isi roop me maan kar daan karne lage,

Is baat ka koi thoss praman nahi ki aadi kaal se kanyadan ki pratha rahi hai, mahaz kuch kahaniyo aur lok manyatao ke aadhar par ham kah dete hai ki aadi kaal se ye parampara rahi hai jabki ise aadi kaal na kah kar sadiyo kahna jyada sahi hai, kanyadan ek aisi parampara jisme janm dene wale mata-pita apni
kanya ko doosre pariwaar mein kisi ki vadhu ke roop me daan karte hai, iske baad jis Ghar me uska vivah hota hai chahe waha jitni bhi takleef aur kasht ho use apna Ghar vivah ke baad use hi man kar wahi rahna hai. Kahte hai ma-baap ke Ghar se ladki ki doly uthti hai aur pati ke Ghar se arthi,

Vivahupraant mata-pita kanya ke Ghar ka paani tak peena paap samajhte hai, vivah poorva Jisé poore din Ghar ke kaamo me lagaye rahte the, jiski banai roti khate the an dooje Ghar ki bahu kya hui paani tak nai pi sakte jaise ab WO zahar ho gaya ho,

In sab riwaazo ne naari ki sthiti ko pursho ke samakh doyam kar diya, sarvpratham dahej jaisi kuriti ka janm kanyadan roopi kuriti ke saath hi hua kyoki mana Jane laga ki kanya ke daan ke saath anya bhotik vastuo ka daan uske daampatya jeevan ki nayi shuruaat me kaam aaynge kintu isse aur adhik lene ki ichha var paksh ke logo me badne lagi falswaroop dahej naamak kuriti ko janm diya, is kuriti ki aag me Jane kitni kanyaye aaj bhi sadiyo ki bhaati hi JAL rahi hai,


Iske saath hi bete-beti me bhed-bhaaw shuru hua, ladkiyo ko doosre ke Ghar ki amanat kah kar use bete jitna na to mata-pita ka pyar mila na apnapan, pal-pal ladki hone ka dansh wo jhelne lagi jaise ladki hona apraadh hai, bachpan se hi use dooje Ghar me rahne ke liye traind kiya Jane laga jisme uska komal bachpan ghum ho kar rah gaya, iske saath hi bete ki chahat ko badawa mila, ladki chahe jitni Kabil ho par ek din paraye Ghar jaygi aur beta chahe jitna nakabil ho yahi rah jayega, bete ko budape ki laathi, vansh a aage badane wala, ma-baap ko moksh dene wala kah kar uski ahmiyat beti se jyada maan li gayi,

Kintu ye parampara banayi kisne? Purshon ne hi na, purush aurat ko barabari ka adhikaar dena to door doyam se bhi neecha rakhne ka prayas sadiyo se karta raha hai, aur parampara-riti-riwaaz ke naam par aaj bhi uska shoshan kar raha hai, tabhi to vivah ke baad nari par hi Sab-rok tok hai ye kapde mat pahno, bina sindoor mang me bhare na raho aadi-aadi kintu vivah baad purush waise hi rahta hai jaise pahle, shadi ke baad naam va upnaam street ka hi badta hai purush ka nai kyoki ki nari ka daan ho chuka hai vivah me purush ka nahi, naari ab daasi hai pati ki aur wo uska malik bilkul waise hi jaise daan Kare huye pashu ka malik daan lene wala vyakti ho jata hai an chahe pashu ke saath jaisa bhi vayvhaar zindagi use wahi guzarni hai agar wo atyachaar aur kashto se tang aa kar wo waha se bhaag bhi jata to kahi ka nahi rahta, aisi hi sthiti vivah ke baad kanya ke daan ke uprant kanya ki hoti hai,

pursho ne kewal kanyadan rupi pratha hi sadiyo pahle kyo rakhi var-daan ki sath me kyo nahi rakhi aakhir shadi to ladke ki bhi hui hai, is par kabhi kisi be vichaar nahi kiya, street ka hi vivah ke baad vuvahit dukhna evam vivah Ching naari ke liye hi kyon rakhe gaye, pursho ke liye kyon nahi, purush sati kah kar sadiyo se uska shoshan karta raha hai aur wo sati kyon nahi ban Sakta, jaahir hai vivah ke baad bhi anya stree se kaamna se khud ko virakt kar apni indriyo ko vash me rakhne ka usme saahas nahi kintu naari na kisi anya purush se vivahuprant uske jaise sambandh rakh le iske liye use sati shabd me baandh diya, aur naari bhi usme bandh kar pursho ke kotilya bhaaw ko na Jaan saki aur kanyadan evam sati ke naam par sadiyon se aaj tak uska shoshan ho raha hai,

Jahir hai nari ko ek vastu aur sampatti man kar iske saath hi usse purush se kamtar maan kar ye prathaye shuru hui aur nari ko bewkoof banane ke liye is daan ko maha daan ka jama pahna diya, masoom nari apnr mata-pita ko ananya punya ki prapti ho isliye is kupratha ko sadiyo she aaj tak dhoti chali aa rahi hai aur bade hi aashcharya ki baat hai khud ko aadhunik kahne wali naari be isse  pahle shayad hi is vishay par dhyaan diya ho, ummid hai is lekh ko padne ke baad khud ko aadhunik kahne wali streeya is kupratha par ek baar vichaar avashya karengi aur apne shoshankaari pauranik niyamo ke khilaaf aawaz utha kar sach me apne aadhunik hone ka parichay dengi.....

pyar chahta hu

"Main fir dil ka guitar bajana chahat hu, main fir se mohabbat karna chahta hu, bhool kar sanam ki har bewafai fir ishk ki mehfil mein jaana chajta hu, maana mila hai dard mujhe mohabbat mein, maana mila hai dhokha mujhe is mohabbat mein, bhool kar har sitam aaj fir ek yaar paana chahta hu, zakham apne chhipa kar aaj fir ek dilbar ka bas pyaar paana chahta hu-2

ishwar ki anmol dharohar hoti hain betiya

Ishwar ki anmol dharohar hoti hain betiya,
Khushiyo ki saugaat hoti hain betiya,
Gam apne chhipa kar sabke ashk pochti hain betiya,
Khush naseeb hain wo jinke ghar janm leti hain betiya,


Hoti hain shikaar apno ke hi bhed-bhaav ka,
Hoti hain shikaar duniya ke bhi bhed-bhaav ka,
Sab Jaan kar chup rahti hain betiya,
Kuch kahti nahi kisi se ghut-ghut kar jeeti hain bas ye betiya,

Kabhi durga ban kar to kabhi lakshmi ban kar, ban kar sarashwati duniya ko aaina dikhati hain betiya,
Kabhi ma ban kar to kabhi bahan ban kar apni har bhoomika nibhaati hain betiya,

Sahti hain dansh umar bhar beti hone ka, har pal jeeti hai jeevan doyam darze ka, parampara ke naam par babul bhi saath jinka chhod deta hai ek din,
Daan kanya ka kar harsh paata hai ghar har din,

Door apno se ho kar bhi door nahi hoti hain betiya,
Door ja kar apno se gerro ko apna banati hai betiya,
Pyaar mile ya mile dutkaar sab sah kar bhi har pal mushkurati hain betiya,

Bete to dekhte hain ek Ghar, do-do ghar sawarti hain betiya, apne zakhm chhipa sabko Marham lagati hain betiya, na paati ho pyaar bhale taumar apno ka, tarasti ho do boond mohabbat bhari niharti nazro ka,
Par pee kar har zahar pyaar lutaati hain beshumaar ye betiya,

Pal-pal deti kubaani apno ke liye, har pal lutaati ye zindgaani apno ke liye, na kahti kuch kisise, chup rah sab sahti  hain ye betiya hai, mile chaahe zakhm jitne bhi apno se, na koi shikwa na shikayat karti hain ye betiya,  janmo ke punyo baad ja kar kahi janm leti hai ye betoya, aisi  hoti hain betiya,



Budaape ki laathi kahne wala beta saath jab chhod jaata hai, ban kar dooje Ghar ki dulhan ma-baap ki WO laathi bhi ban jaati hain betiya, mangta hai beta jahan ma-baap ki dhan-daulat, ma-baap ke aashirwaad ko hi sabse badi poonji maan bas wahi chahti hain betiya,


Sach hi to hai ye Ishwar ki sabse anmol dharohar hoti hain betiya, khushiyo ki saugaat hoti hain betiya-4

upar baitha rab wo ro raha hai

Upar baitha rab wo ro raha hai, uski banayi is duniya mein ye kya ho raha hai,
Insaan hi insaan ka lahoo baha raha hai, le kar allah-oshwar-prabhu ka naam hewaaniyat felaa raha hai,

Dekh insaan ki khooni holi aaj wo khud par hi lajja raha hai,
Khoti jaati insaaniyat ko dekh wo bhi aaj ashk baha raha hai,

Bahte huye in ashko ke sath bas ye hi dohraata hai,Banaya tha jise itni shiddat se Maine, bheja tha jise hifazat-ae-zahaan karne, usine ye hai kohraam macha diya,har insaan ne aaj insaan ka lahoo baha  mujhe bhi rula diya,

Hoon main ek hi jagat mein, aapas mein bat chuke insaan ne mujhe bhi kahi khuda to kahi raam bana diya, baat chuke is duniya ko insaan ne mujhe bhi baant diya


Dekh duniya ki ye haalat wo bhi aaj ro  raha hai,
Bheja tha insaan duniya sawarne ko, bheja tha insaan duniya nikharne ko, banaya tha jise apna hi ek pratiroop, di usse shaktiya uske hi anuroop,


Par Bhool kar insaniyat hewaanyat wo felaa raha hai, Insaaniyat ko marne insaan hathiyar uthaa raha hai,apne paapo mein le kar mera naam mujhe bhi yu sataa raha hai, khoon ki holi ke saath-khooni diwaali WO bana rahai hai,


Dekh duniya-daari wo rab bas aaj ye kah raha hai, meri banayi is duniya mein ye kya ho raha hai-2,
upar baitha rab wo ro raha hai, uski banayi is duniya mein ye kya ho raha hai.....

aankhon mein bas paani hai

"Dil mein hai dard aur aankho mein bas paani hai, mere hridaye ki ye peeda bas ye kahani hai, apna jisne bhi kaha mujhe us par hi lutaati ye zindgaani hai, par gairo ki chhodo yaha apno ne bhi na baksha mujhe, apna kah kar apnepan ki saza har pal di mujhe, gairo se kya ummid karu bahte meri aankh se in ashko ko rokne ki, khoon ke rishton ne hi khoon ke sansu diye mujhe, gairo aur apno se mile in jakhmo ki hi ye bayani hai, viraan hai meri ye zindagi sirf ye hi meri kahani hai,  dil mein hai dard aur aankho mein bas paani hai-4

toot kar bikharte rahe

"Toot kar bikharte rahe armaan ye mere, har mod par loot te rahe mujhe mere,

Bahut koshish ki khud sambhlane ki,
Bahut koshish ki auron ki tarah jeene ki


Har kadam pe dhokhe dete rahe mujhe mere,
Kisi gair ki kya shikwa karu, khoon ke rishte hi ashk dete rahe mujhe mere,


Bahut chahat thi is dil ko bhi sambhalne ki,
Aarzoo thi man ko bhi sabki tarah hi chalne ki,


Kadam-kadam par thokare dete rahe mujhe mere,
Har kadam par giraate rahe mujhe mere,


Bahut koshish ki duniya mein rahne ki
Bahut chahat ki sabki tarah hi rahne ki,


Kadam-kadam par tanha chhodte rahe mujhe mere,
Har mod par akela hi chhod gaye mujhe mere,


Beti-bahan ban kar bahut kuch diya unhe,
Apni khushi bhula kar har modpe balidaan diya unhe,


Loot kar mere laboon ki hasi khud mushkurate rahe ye mere,
Akela mujhe bana kar apni zindagi sazate rahe ye mere

Toot kar bikharte rahe armaan ye mere-4

mile dhokhe zamane se

Mile dhokhe zamane se mujhe bahut,
Mile ashk zamane se mujhe bahut,Kadam kadam pe dil todne wale mile mujhe bahut,
Har mod pe zakhm dene wale mile mujhe bahut,


Mile fareb zamane se mujhe bahut,
Mile dard zamane she mujhe bahut,
Kisi mod pe thaam kar mera haath chal sake saath,
Wo dilbar wo hanashin na mil saka umar bhar,

Kadam par prem-khilaadi hazaar mile mujhe,
Jo bana sake apni zindgi nibha sake is rishte ko har baar,
bas wo hi prem-pujari na mil saka mujhe,
Ishk ke naam par ye mohabbat ke saudagar baar-baar mile mujhe