Shaadi
na sirf do logon ke milan ko kahte hai balki ye wo rishta hai jab do
ajnabi pareewar bhi ek doosre ke saath rishtedaari k sootra mein bandh
ke ek ho jaate hain, Shaadi ke baad nav dampatti ka jeevan bhi pahle se
bahut badal jaata hai,apne kai sapno ke saath na sirf var vadhu ek
doosre ko apnate baliki iske saath bahut saari nayi jimmedaariya bhi
unpe aa jaati hai, naye rishton aur nayi jimmedariyon ke saath wo apne
naye rishte ki shuruaat karte hain. Humare pretyek dharm aur shaashtron
mein bhi shaadi ko ek aavshyak kaarya ke roop mein maanyata di gayi hai,
iske ek wazah to ye hai ki ek nishcht samay par ladke aur ladki ki
shaadi se ne to sirf netikta bani rahti hai iske saath samaj mein
santulan bhi bana rahta hai..
par aaj ke iss aadhunikta ke daur mein aisa kya ho raha hai jo shaadi
jaise majboot rishte bhi toot kar bikharte ja rahe hain, Shaadi jo na
sirf do logon ke milan ka naam hai balki do ajnabi pareewar bhi
risthedaari ke paawan sootra mein bandh kar ek ho jaate hain, fir aaj
aisa kya ho raha hai jo shaadi jaisee aavshyak kriya jiska dharm se bhi
seedha seedha rishta hai wo kamjoor padti ja rahi hai, aakhir galti kis
se kyon aur kahan ho rahi hai, aakhir kaun hai zimmedar inn sabka, kuch
logon ka iss bare mein kahna hai ki Paschimi Sabhyata hum par haavi ho
rahi hai jiske wazah se rishte tootne lage hain, shaadi jaise majboot
rishte ki imaarat bhi kamjor padne lagi hai, to kuch log Film,
Television, internet, Media ko maante hain, to kuch log aaj ke pade
likhe yuwa varg ko iska zimmedar maante hain. par sochne wali baat ye
hai ki kya sachh mein ye hi kaaran hai rishton ke toot kar bikhar jaane
ke ya fir asal kaaran wo hain jo hum dekhna hi nahi chahte ya dekh kar
bhi samajhna nahi chaahte..
jahan tak maine rishton ke tootne aur talaak ke baare mein research ki
aur kuch ek case's ko study kiya to paaya ki jo kaaran log bata rahe
hain rishte tootne ke wo asal mein wo hai hi nahi, haan ye jarur hai ki
aaj ke time mein Film's, Television, Internet, Media and Higher
Education ne logon ko kaafi had tak apne adhikaaron ke prati jaagruk
jaroor kiya hai lekin inhe hum wo rishte tootne ka kaaran batana bahut
hi galat hoga, kyon ki rishton ka tootna aur apne adhikaaron ke prati
jaagruk hona do alag alag baate hain, par haan thoda bahut sambandh iska
jarur ho sakta hai par mukhya kaaran nahi, aur jahan tak mukhya kaaran
ki baat hai to wo kya hai maine inhe jaanne ki koshish ki..
shaadi jo sabse jyada pravit karti hai wo hote hain nav dampatti, kuch
sapno aur armaanon ke saath do log shaadi ke bandhan mein bandh kar ek
hote hain, shaadi se pahle unki kuch aakanshaaye hoti hai apne bhaavi
jeevan saathi ko le kar, apni shaadi ko le kar, kintu maine dekha hai
jin ummidon ke saath wo log shaadi ke bandhan mein bandh kar ek hote
hain aur jab unhe lagta hai ki unke sapne bas sapne ban kar rah gaye aur
unki aakanshaye bas kori kalpana ban kar rah gayi, tab aise mein unke
beech doori aane lagti hai, lekin har shaadi shuda vyakti ke saath aisa
ho ya wo aisa vyavhaar kare wo jaruri bhi nahi hota, jo log isse hi apna
naseeb maan kar khushi khushi sweekar kar lete hain aur ek doosre ki
bhaavnao ka samman karte hain wo jaldi hi isse paar pa jaate hain aur
achhi khaasi shaadi shuda zindagi bitaate hain, kintu jo log inse paar
nahi paate unke mann mein bas ye hi afsoos rahta hai ki unhone apnee
mehatkaanshao ke saath samjhota kiya hai, wo khud ko neecha samajhne
lagte hain, unme heen bhaavna aane lagti hai aur iska asar unkee shaadi
shuda zindagi par seedha seedha padta hai aur rishton mein itnee dooriya
aa jaati ki pareewar mein bikhraav ki sthiti paida hone lagti hai..
lekin sirf ye hi kaaran nahi hai jo aaj ke waqt mein rishte tootne ki ek
maatra wazah ho, kuch aur bhi kaaran maine apnee iss research mein
jaane. rishte tootne ka ek kaaran apne jeevan saathi ki bhaavnao ko
samman na dena bhi hota hai, sirf humesha khud ko sahe thehra kar apna
har faisla uss par thop dena, uski baat ko na to sunna aur na hi
samajhne ki koshish karna, ye ek kaaran hota hai jab rishte tootne ki
kagaar par aa kar khade ho jaate hain, maine kai baar akhbaar aur tv pe
samaachar mein khabar padi aur dekhi hai ki Dahejj ke liye bahu ke saath
uske saath uske sasuraal walon ne bura kiya, na sirt usse maansik aur
shareerik prataadna di balki uski jaan tak le li, ya fir kabhi sunne ko
aata hai ki sasuraal walon se tang kar ladki ne jaan di, iski wazah kya
hai, kaun hai zimmedaar, sachh to ye hai jo log apni bahu par dahejj
laane ka dabaav daal rahe the kya unhone uski baat samajhne ki koshish
ki, kya unhone khud ko uski jagah rakhne ki koshish ki, khud ko uske
pareewar ki jagah rakhne ki koshish ki, nahi ki, unhone sirf aur sirf
apnee marzi uss par thopi, yaha tak ki apni baat aur marzi ko sahi
theraane mein wo itne andhe ho gaye ki unhe uski jaan lene mein bhi ko
harz nahi hui, to fir asal kaaran kya hua, asal kaaran wo hi hua ki apne
nazariye se sochna, sirf aur sirf khud ko har baar sahi thehraana, agar
aisa karne wale jiske saath aisa kar rahe hain uske nazariye se soch
kar dekhe tab unhe shayad apni galati ka kuch aabhaas ho.
rishe tootne ki ek wazah hoti hai shaadi se pahle kisi ladke ya ladki ka
shaadi se pahle ka affair, waise to har kisi ka koi na koi achha ya
bura paast hota hi hai, lekin agar ye paast shaadi ke baad unke vartmaan
zindagi mein hastshep karne lage to isse shaadi shuda zindagi prabaavit
hona to aam baat hai hi, maine dekha hai jo log shaadi ke baad apne
ateet ko bhool kar apne jeevan saath ko apna sab kuch maan lete hain aur
apni pichhali zindagi ke bare mein bhi usse bata dete hain to aane wale
samay mein unki zindagi mein dooriyon ki gunjaaish kam rahti. lekin
kaafi log aise bhi hote hain jo pareewar ke dabaav mein aa kar ya kisi
anya kaaran se uss shakhs se shaadi nahi kar paate jisse wo pasand karte
hai par saath hi kisi aur se shaadi ke baad bhi wo apne iss rishte ko
todna nahi chahte jisse unki shaadi shuda zindagi prabaavit hoti hai aur
aakhir mein rishton mein dooriya aati hai, infect maine to kaafi aise
log bhi dekhe hai jo pahle se shaadi shuda hote hai fir bhi paiseon ke
aur mote dahejj ke laalach mein doosrei shaadi karte hai, isse wo na
sirf do logon ki zindagi barbaad karte hain balki unke saath apne
bachhon ki zindagi ko bhi prabaavit karte hain, aur nateeza rishton mein
dooriya....
ab baat karte hain Film, Television, Internet, Media aur Education ki,
iska rishton ke tootne ka kahan tak sambhand hai, mujhe aisa lagta hai
ki inn sabse se aaj ka yuwa varg jaagruk hua hai, usse apne adhikaaron
ke baare mein aaj pahle se adhik jaankari hai, tabhi wo aaj dukh, aansu,
gamm ya kisi mazboori ke saath risthe dhone ke jagah unhe khatm karna
behtar samajhta hai, TV, Internet ityaadi se unhe tamaam celebrities ke
baare mein jaankariya milti hai ki aaj falaa celebrity ki shaadi ho gayi
aur falaa ki uske jeevan saath se nahi bani aur aakhir donon alag ho
gaye, jab ye khabre aam log padte ya dekhte hain to unhe lagta hai ki
jab ye log aisa kar sakte hai jinhe wo apna aadarsh maante hai to wo
khud bhi kyon kisi ke atyaachar sahe, kyon wo kisi anchaahe rishte ka
bojh thote rahe, isse achha to unhe aise rishte ko apnee zindagi se
humesha ke liye jad se ukhaad kar door faikna jyada achha lagta hai,
afsoos iss baat ka hai ki rishto ke tootne aur bikhraawo ki wazah se
humari netikta bhi bang ho rahi hai, shaadiyon ke tootne se na sirf
netikta ka patan ho raha hai balki kai tarh ke apraadh bhi bad rahe
hain, agar hume inn apraadhon aur netikta ke patan ko rokna hai to
rishton ke tootne se hume unhe bachaana hoga, iske saath hi shaadi
humare dharm aur aashta se bhi sambandh rakhti hai, apne dharm aur
aastha ke liye hume rishton ke patan ko rokna hoga.
ab log humse puchenge ki aakhir kaise rishton ke tootne se unhe bachaaya
jaaye, to iske jawab to maine pahle hi uppar likh diya hai, chaliye ek
baar aur theek se yaha hum sabko bata dete hai, yadi hum sadev ek doosre
ki bhaavnao ko samman de, ek doosre ki baat ko samjhe, ek doosre ki
samashyaon ko samjhe, sirf apne swaarth ke liye balki doosre ki khushi
ke baare mein bhi kuch soche, doosre ko bhi itnaa hi mehatva de jitna
khud ko dete hain, khud ko ek doosre ka maalik nahi balki aisa dost samjhe jo jindagi ke aakhir tak humara saath dega, humara jeevan saathi bhale humari kalpna jaisa na
ho par wo jaisa bhi ho usse ishwar ka marzi aur unka aashirwaad maan
kar apnaye, uske baahari aakarshan aur bhotik saamagri ko dhyaan mein rakh kar nhi balki uske dil ko dekh kar apnaye, apni aakanshayon aur ichhao par kaabu rakhe, sada jeevan
saathi ke prati bafadaar rahe, agar lagta hai ki kahi humara ateet humare
aaj ko na prabavit kare to aise mein apne ateet ki sabhi baate apne
jeevan saathi se jarur kahe aur iske saath hi jeevan saathi ko chahiye ki
uske ateet ki galtiyon ko bhula kar wo apna aaj aur bhavishya dekhe,
mujhe lagta hai agar log aisa karte hai to kaafi had tak hum rishton ke
toote jaane se unhe rok sakte hain, rishta pyaar, vishwaash, samman aur
ek doosre ke prati nihswaarth bhaavna par tika hona chahiye, inme kabhi
avishwaas, swaarth, asamman aur ek doosre ki bhavnao ke prati anaadar
nahi aana chahiye kyon ki ye kaaran hote hain rishton ke tootne aur
bikhrao ke...
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Thanks and Regards
*****Archana*****